Since when did sex become so casual? Considering it’s considered one of the most intimate acts two human beings can engage in, throwing around the term ‘casual sex’ seems a bit trite.
Yet sex can be casual. People experience sex in different ways and it’s arrogant to presume that your way is the best way. Below are some very good reasons as to why we think people should try casual sex at some point in their lives.
1. You learn a lot more about your sexuality
Good sex like anything in life requires practice. So logically the more you have the more likely you will to find out about what you like and don’t like in and out of the bedroom. Sometimes the best way to do this is with various different sexual partners. Why? Because we all approach sex differently and we all have different tastes, desires and likes. Sex with one person is always different to another person. This will stand you in good stead for the future as it means when and if you want to settle on just one partner, you’ll be able to know if you’re sexually compatible sooner rather then later.
2. It can eliminate sexual anxiety
Whenever we sleep with someone for the first time, we all experience a wide range of emotions; excitement, tension, worry, nervousness. Chief amongst our emotions is anxiety. We’re worried we won’t be up to the other person’s standards. With casual sex this is far less at stake emotionally. It doesn’t matter if you fuck up. It doesn’t matter if you try something and you or your partner doesn’t really like it. This is all about testing and as a result you can indulge your fantasies and whims in a way where there is little to no worry about how the other person might react. This will make you a far more confident lover.
3. You can become a better partner in a committed relationship
It sounds at odds with the whole nature of casual sex, but in reality the more knowledge you have of yourself and your sexuality the more emotionally stable you will be when you approach a committed relationship. You already know what you like and don’t like. You’re less worried about impressing your partner. You’re more relaxed in the bedroom. A study conducted in the US in Minnesota back in 2010 concluded that out of the 1,311 people interviewed 82.5% claimed that one or more of their casual sex relationships led to longer term or serious relationships.
Conventional wisdom regurgitated constantly by society tells us that casual sex is bad for us! Well, considering the human race has many different approaches and attitudes to sexuality, we find that wisdom to be wholly stupid and illogical.
Have a very sexually Merry Christmas and we’ll see all of you next year.