The online urban dictionary describes the term ‘slapper’ as attributed to a girl who in earlier eras would have been labelled a ‘nymphomaniac’. A true slapper would be a woman looking to sate her sexual appetite every 10 minutes or so. Whilst it’s hard to disagree that pretty much all of our members probably fit into that category in some shape, way or form, we find it odd that what was once a mere adjective has become a true insult.
You only have to trace back the origin of any derogatory insult aimed towards women to discover that it starts usually with men. As guys we don’t really like the idea of women having more sexual partners or conquests then we do, even though 9 times out of 10 women are ahead of us by miles. The moment we feel our sexual prowess (try not to snigger ladies) threatened, we panic, become afraid and resort to simple name calling.
How woman are so much smarter then men
Women have done what every strong person has ever done when someone has called them a name; they’ve turned around and simply taken possession of it. Instead of getting upset and angry, many women have simply shrugged their shoulders and decided to wear the name as a badge of honour. Unlike men, many women are proud and honest to admit that they are nymphomaniacs – just like the rest of us.
This insulting term is a hang up from the Victorian era and despite our protestations that we’re living in the 21st Century…many things still seem very 19th Century.
Being a Slapper can be a liberating experience
“Birds do it, bees do it, even educated fleas do it”…so go the lyrics to Cole Porter’s famous ‘Let’s Do it’. We all have sex. We all fuck like rabid bunny rabbits whenever we get the chance. So why is it that when women are open about it, they’re often denigrated and ridiculed by men?
One simple word: jealousy.
Most guys (myself included) always want more sex then they often have. Women are in the unique position of having total control of their sexuality and because they know we want sex as much as they do, can be far more picky about their partners.
It could be argued that this is a form of revenge for all the times men have ridiculed and insulted women over the years, but even if that is the case it is revenge well deserved and brought on entirely by us men.
Both women and men are now in one of the most openly sexual periods of history. Society is less afraid to talk about sex, and once we can get past the remaining social hang ups and stigmatisations we have, we should be good to all freely admit that at heart, we’re all slappers.
And that can only be a good thing.